Repeat After Me Girls: "I Love Men!"
And so they love me. It's that simple.
Have you ever met a man who clearly hates women? It's oozing from his pores. Every part of his being says "I can't stand you" and you just met him. Those are not the men we're looking for. They've got stuff to deal with. However, identifying them is a good lesson for us. It helps us to identify the same thing within ourselves if it is lurking there.
When I sit down in a room full of single women and tell them that I'm a dating coach, the result can be venomous. You can't believe how many women react immediately with phrases such as "The last thing I need is a man in my life!" Next, they ask me about a "friend" of theirs that is clearly making the wrong decision regarding someone she's dating, and they want validation in telling her that. Before I know it, it comes out that they actually do want to find a nice man to marry.
Somehow, it seems to be programmed into women by the time we hit 30 or so, that it's unacceptable to look for love, or to be proactive about finding a great man. Silly girls! Wouldn't you rather pick from 100 men that you searched out in 6 months, than the 5 that just happened across you? The first step is to simply proclaim, "I Love Men!"
Take a good listen to the things that you say when you talk about men in general. Do you know how many times I've heard women say "I hate men!" Or "Men are such jerks." Their girlfriends say "No kidding!" and immediately chime in with their best "man who wronged me or my friend" story. Ladies, this is not an acceptable conversation to be having. It's bad for you and for your girlfriends. It's just straight up unhealthy. Guess what else? You're busy attracting more of those jerks as the words come out of your mouth.
So, what's your generalization? Men are:
...stalkers
...sex fiends
...animals
...manipulative
...cheap
...users
...abusive
...unemotional
...liars
...etc
Now - let's fix your internal and external dialogue. "I love men!" Say it, feel it and tell everyone. Don't worry, they won't be nasty about it. Think of all the women you'll help by saying "I love men." I've been saying it for years and have never had anyone have the guts to argue with me about it. In fact, a few have said "You know, I should really start thinking that way." Before you know it, you'll be running across more truly lovable men than you know what to do with.
It's one of those tiny little changes...with big powerful results!
About the Author:
Jaime Richards is a Denver based Dating Coach and the founder and writer for Happily Ever Afters. She specializes in helping women over thirty find a husband. Jaime offers one on one dating coaching services to women in the Denver area and via Skype to women around the world! She also offers Online Dating Profile Writing Services.
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